Why the Term 'Gold Star Lesbian' is Damaging to Women (#16)
Labels are this giant double-edged sword. We use them to help others understand more of who we are, and while that is happening, we are being put in a little box with that label on it. Then, because we love boxes, we start to draw our own, categorizing every aspect of ourselves as a way of being understood. How do we save ourselves from this spiral!? In terms of the true spectrums at play in queer existence, labels can chop us up and divide us. Keeping us in boxes that constrict our truest freedom. The freedom to love. Because every human has a completely unique romantic and sexual energy flowing through their bodies. Every person's sensual personality comes into bloom on their own time. Each as unique as our fingerprints. Whether you are straight or gay or in between, every one explores that side of themselves in their own way. Some begin exploring at a very young age, others like myself are late bloomers. Some people know they are gay by first grade. Others wait forty year